On last night’s episode of Cougartown (A Woman in Love) Jules (Courtney Cox) decides to break things off with Josh. And for good reason. She is clear that this is not the relationship for her. Yet, she can’t help sleeping with him when he shows up at her door distraught over the break-up. You can’t, we repeat, you can’t be the problem and the solution. You can’t comfort your Ex through the break-up with sex, soothing words or anything else for that matter. Kindness can actually mean cutting them off, and letting them move on. Yes, we all feel guilty. Yes, we don’t want them to hate us. Yes, it’s totally hard to do. But in the end it keeps things clear for you, and for them.